Couples Therapy That Works: The EFT Approach
By Yasaman “Yasi” Klayman, AMFT · 2025-04-08
Most couples don’t argue about dishes or money — they argue about feeling unheard, alone, or not chosen. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) goes straight to that layer, and the research on it is some of the strongest in the field.
Breaking the cycle
EFT helps partners see the negative cycle they get trapped in — the pursue-withdraw dance underneath the surface fights — and create new patterns of closeness, safety, and secure connection.
You don’t have to be in crisis
EFT helps couples in real distress, but it also strengthens good relationships. The couples who reach out sooner simply have more to work with.
Frequently asked
Does EFT actually work?
Yes — EFT is one of the most researched and effective approaches to couples therapy, with strong evidence for lasting improvement in relationship satisfaction.