Couples Therapy: When Is It Time to Go?
By Yasaman “Yasi” Klayman, AMFT · 2026-05-06
A common myth about couples therapy is that it’s a last resort. In reality, the couples who benefit most often come in before things reach a breaking point. Here’s how to know when it might be time.
Signs it’s worth reaching out
Consider couples therapy if you notice:
- The same arguments on repeat
- Growing distance or feeling like roommates
- Trouble rebuilding trust after a betrayal
- A big transition (marriage, baby, blended family)
What therapy actually does
Using approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), couples therapy helps you understand the cycle you get stuck in and build new patterns of connection, safety, and trust.
Frequently asked
Do both partners have to want to come?
It helps when both are willing, but it’s common for one partner to start the conversation. Reaching out is a low-pressure way to decide together.